People that become programmers have a tendency to have very poor interpersonal skills. Some of us gravitate to programming because it lets us limit our amount of human contact, for others it gives us something to feel superior about.

I can't claim to fully understand what the author is feeling but I can empathize. I am an average looking white guy and I also feel like a complete outsider.

I guess I've mostly given up on fitting in at this point. I rather be alone than feel the anxiety of trying to fit in with a group. I want people to be happy, healthy, and successful... just at a distance.