well, you edited most out, but anyway.
I often get criticized because i don't answer to stuff on my phone "instantly". Sometimes it takes me a couple of hours because i set it to alert me only on very important stuff (this happens more or less, never).
I don't like to check it very often (because it breaks concentration on whatever i'm doing and that annoys me..).
So anyway, the point is, i understand that even if you don't like, or don't want to be distracted, the social pressure makes it hard. Direct social pressure "check your phone i sent the msg FIVE minutes ago!!"
That's around the point when I explain that the phone is for my convenience, not theirs.
Or... That's what I'd like to say anyway..
In reality, I do feel that social pressure to respond -- hell, I even feel guilty if I don't respond at all (which is ridiculous!). The problem is that I sometimes let my "triage" habits from email slip over into my text handling. For instance, I'll receive a text and actually instantly open it, but upon gauging its "importance" in the context of other activities (usually work) I'll mentally file it under "deal with later," and go back to what I'm doing. And, of course, being that text messages don't have anything approaching the organization of email, I usually end up forgetting to ever write people back all together.
I sure wish there was a "mark unread" function for texts on Android.. It'd make me seem a lot less of a anti-social dick.
I don't like to check it very often (because it breaks concentration on whatever i'm doing and that annoys me..).
So anyway, the point is, i understand that even if you don't like, or don't want to be distracted, the social pressure makes it hard. Direct social pressure "check your phone i sent the msg FIVE minutes ago!!"