I don't see what you mean. All my music in iTunes is neatly organized inside the Music folder - DRM free and easily copied to any device.
The iPhone is a different matter, you have to accept that you will lose (a lot of) freedom for the syncing convenience. There are some apps that allow you to exchange data over wifi through FTP/WebDav when one does not want to use iTunes at all.
The only DRM-free providers of Tv shows/movies that I know of are pirates. It's especially sad outside of the US because a ton of content is simply not legally available.
Meh, I don't see much difference, and I won't kid myself into thinking that I'm actually "purchasing" anything from either of those services, rather than a semi-long-term rental at a higher price. I'll stream DRM video for a cheap monthly fee but I won't "buy" it since it's never mine, given that the purchases can be rendered worthless at the flip of the service provider's switch. If I want permanent access to a movie, I get the shiny disc and rip it to a standard format.
