I think there's a difference between "support" and "enabling".
It is well documented that family members of someone suffering from an addiction will often do their best at shielding the person from the consequences of their acts. While well-intentioned ("If I don't pay this debt they'll have an eviction on their record and will never find a place again"), these acts prevent the addict from seeking help because, without consequences, the addict has no reason to change their ways. Actually helping them requires, paradoxically, to let them hit rock bottom.
An "emotional vibrator" that (for instance) dampens that person's loneliness is likely to result in that person taking longer (if ever) to seek help for their PTSD. IMHO it may look like help when it's actually enabling them.
It is well documented that family members of someone suffering from an addiction will often do their best at shielding the person from the consequences of their acts. While well-intentioned ("If I don't pay this debt they'll have an eviction on their record and will never find a place again"), these acts prevent the addict from seeking help because, without consequences, the addict has no reason to change their ways. Actually helping them requires, paradoxically, to let them hit rock bottom.
An "emotional vibrator" that (for instance) dampens that person's loneliness is likely to result in that person taking longer (if ever) to seek help for their PTSD. IMHO it may look like help when it's actually enabling them.