Like others in the thread have said, the question could have been phrased more precisely. Technically you are misreading it but in an annoying and trivial way.
What the problem is really saying is this:
1) You have a large collection of families with two kids of varying genders.
2) You draw one of them at random. At this point, your only estimate of P(2 girls) is 0.25.
3) Someone tells you that the family you drew has at least one girl.
4) This extra information changes your probability estimate because the possibility of two boys has been ruled out; the naive 1/4 estimate is refined to 1/3.
The way you are interpreting it is this:
1) You have a large collection of families with two kids, at least one of whom is a girl.
2) Then the probability that the other child is a girl is clearly 50%.
As a reminder this is how the original post phrased the question:
Here's the problem: a family has two children. You're told that at least one of them is a girl. What's the probability both are girls?
This is just too vague and admits both interpretations, they needed to be more specific about where the family "came from." That's why Monty Hall is a better illustration: it starts with you explicitly choosing a door at random. Here the family has been chosen at random from the pool of families with two children, but that's totally unclear.
The annoying thing is this sits with my teaching fine, it is more my intuition that is failing to withstand trying to break it. :(
So, in the original: "a family has two children. You're told at least one of them is a girl." What are the possible states? Well, assume first born is the girl, then you have 50% that the next is a girl. Then, assume that the first born was a boy, then there is no chance and the second born is the girl that you know of. So, at 50/50 on those chances, you have 50% chance of having a 50% chance, or a 50% chance of it being 0. I can't see how to combine those to get 1/3. :(
And the Monty Hall explicitly covers the case that a decision is made on which door is shown to you. I don't see any similar framing to this problem. Yes, the total states are GB, BG, GG, but only if you treat GG in such a way that either BG or GB was not a possible state. (That is, using G for girl that you know of, and g for unknown, then possible states are GB, Gg, gG, BG. There is no version of Bg or gB that is possible, so to treat those as equal strikes me as problematic.)
Where you're getting confused is by trying to combine state space determination and probability determination at the same time (this is also why the problem is so similar to Monty Hall). The state space is shifting when you say "assume X, then the probability of Y." You are going back and forth between using and not using the information to decide arbitrarily that some probabilities are 50% and others are 0%, which leads to an invalid conclusion.
Specifically: it is not true that the firstborn has a 50-50 chance of being a girl, given you were told that the family has at least one girl. The firstborn has a 2/3rds chance of being a girl. This is the heart of your confusion.
In a broader sense there is an entire class of confusing conditional probability problems like this. Events which are causally independent in reality (e.g. gender of a child, which door Monty Hall hid the car behind) fail to be probabilistically independent when you have extra information. Yet these probability games are contrived in a way that our intuition takes over and we use our causal understanding even when a better probabilistic understanding gives you a better answer.
But in the monty hall, the "discloser" is limited by my choice/observation. It is literally part of the framing. In this framing, there is no limit based on my choice.
Consider, if you tell me that the Smiths have at least 1 girl, and I meet their daughter but you haven't met either, I have no way of knowing if I met the 1 girl or not. I could ask you, but you would just say, "I don't know, could be her. Could be the other kid. I just know they have at least 1 girl."
This is very different from the monty hall case, where the announcer knows what is behind all doors.
Similar. But different. I was using coins as an example elsewhere. If I flip a dime and a quarter, and tell you that one of them is heads, do you have increased chance of knowing if either particular one is heads? This is more liar's dice than it is monty hall.
I have no idea what point you're trying to make. I am aware the selection process is different. If you understand the argument now but you're just splitting hairs about whether it's similar to Monty Hall, fine let's agree to disagree. If you don't understand the argument and are trying to use the dissimilarity to Monty Hall as a counterargument then I don't think I can help you any further.
This is not coherent as written:
If I flip a dime and a quarter, and tell you that one of them is heads, do you have increased chance of knowing if either particular one is heads? This is more liar's dice than it is monty hall.
"Increased chance of knowing" is nonsense. What you mean is "increased chance of being correct if I guess the dime came up heads instead of tails" and this is obviously true. Given at least one of the two coins came up as heads, the probability that the dime is heads is 2/3rds, not 1/2.
Apologies, was away from computer for the extended weekend.
The crux of my view on this problem is that I can make an "at least" or an "at most" statement only knowing what one of the coins is, specifically. So, we both flip a coin, I look at mine and say "at least one is heads." You do not get an increased odds of knowing your coin, obviously. (This is the general play of liar's dice. Just, with dice. :) )
That all said, I largely land on agreeing with one of the other commenters here. The assumptions you can bring to this scenario are rather large here. The assumption I would hold would be to mirror this with how it could happen "in the world." And most ways of selecting a family where "at least 1 is a girl" has you encountering a girl. That is, ordering the two events and revealing one at a time.
In modeling this, you could say that you have two coins, one marked with heads on each side and the other a standard fair coin. In this, I can easily see how your odds of seeing heads on the first coin is increased, but odds on them being both heads is now back to 1/2. I can see how this is not the same modeling you are using, but it is still one that I have a hard time shaking from my intuition on the problem.
> 4) This extra information changes your probability estimate because the possibility of two boys has been ruled out; the naive 1/4 estimate is refined to 1/3.
That’s not correct in general.
It’s only correct if you assume that “3) Someone tells you that the family you drew has at least one girl.” was equally likely to happen whether or not there were two girls.
That’s a quite strong assumption.
One can make different assumptions and get answers different from 1/3. For example, 1/2.
Unlike the other misreading, I think you are splitting hairs about something boring and irritating. Rephrase the problem instead to "you have a reliable device that can tell whether the family has at least one daughter but doesn't tell you how many."
I understand that you may find irritating that someone points out that the original problem is ill-posed and “the answer” depends on how we decide to “rephrase” it.
However, it doesn’t seem boring in the context of a discussion of how the problem is not well-posed and additional assumptions are required to get an answer.
What the problem is really saying is this:
1) You have a large collection of families with two kids of varying genders.
2) You draw one of them at random. At this point, your only estimate of P(2 girls) is 0.25.
3) Someone tells you that the family you drew has at least one girl.
4) This extra information changes your probability estimate because the possibility of two boys has been ruled out; the naive 1/4 estimate is refined to 1/3.
The way you are interpreting it is this:
1) You have a large collection of families with two kids, at least one of whom is a girl.
2) Then the probability that the other child is a girl is clearly 50%.
As a reminder this is how the original post phrased the question:
This is just too vague and admits both interpretations, they needed to be more specific about where the family "came from." That's why Monty Hall is a better illustration: it starts with you explicitly choosing a door at random. Here the family has been chosen at random from the pool of families with two children, but that's totally unclear.