Weird because I'm a raver and there has been an explosion of women in the scene recently. I think it was dominated by men mainly because it is highly technical and therefore was seen as sth men do better. Also, its certainly easier for women to be a popstar by virtue of pretty privilege, a phenomenon that perhaps pushes more men behind scenes.
For me, most women I know are into electronic music genres and most men I know are into rap. Which is probably the only genre where lyrics are often more important than the music. I'm not sure that's an average experience tho. But I do think the absolute top lovers of electronic music are gay men.