I'm sorry that happened to you. The phrase that made my then wife an ex-wife for me was "you're not supposed to be fixing yourself you're supposed to be fixing our marriage!"
Led me (with therapy and time) to realize what I meant to her; I was an accessory.
The thing that worked for me was getting so bored of being depressed that one day my mind went “Okay fine, you’re right, nothing matters. If nothing matters, then me feeling this way doesn’t matter either. I’ll just go do the things regardless of how I feel”
Been 20 years now. Works fine. The depression has been starved of attention, only comes back when I’m hungry.
> Nihilism is often associated with feelings of despair, pessimism, and apathy, as it challenges traditional beliefs and values. However, some argue that it can also lead to a sense of freedom and liberation, as it allows individuals to create their own meaning and values without being bound by pre-existing structures.
It is counter-intuitive to the traditional: find meaning and purpose dogma.
Years later, I read Viktor Frankl and his approach really resonated with me. He adds the nuance that you need meaning, but you can create your own out of anything.
Yes. Being depressed is SO boring. So is being in a psychiatric hospital because of deep depression (I've done that twice, in 1977 after a near-miss suicide attempt (pills) and in 1991 when I became anxiously non-functional and frightened).
Though I've never been in jail or prison, I suspect boredom is a dominant condition there too.
Sure, but that's something that only works when you say it to yourself and believe that it will work. It worsens the situation when it comes from someone else.
