1. We removed the FAQ page
2. You are right, I need to shut the fuck up and let self-righteous hn crowd with torches do what they do best - find a weakness, and push it until they get bored and switch to beat another builder. You asked me about my perspectives and priorities? These are my priorities: https://github.com/dragonflydb/dragonfly/graphs/contributors
3. The first thing I did was on this thread was to apologize for having FAQ with such content.
The best thing about showing anything to others is seeing things about it that you didn't see before. That can be flaws or a hidden gem, but either way you know more about what you have than you did before. You might feel that the focus on the FAQ page was irrelevant and irritating but it gave you feedback on something that at least a few people found relevant about your marketing. Even if you feel like it was just "find a weakness, and push it" I still hope you understand that you got something out of it and hopefully feel OK with that.
Spam in the context of SEO clearly means something more similar to https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spamdexing or unhelpful/dishonest/unrelated content that is just there for ranking.
Are you disputing that the FAQ page tries to rank your site higher by having autogenerated answers to questions your site is not authoritative on? Are any of the questions on the FAQ actually written or meant to be read by a human?
We all know that the definition has expanded in recent years to include low-effort or bot-generated content being flogged on social media (eg: one of Reddit's report options is "spam") and in search results.
Either way, if you want to keep a positive image going, don't take internet comments personally. Just incorporate the feedback and make changes if you feel it's warranted.