All I can really say is that in general, advocate advocate advocate. Don't take no for an answer, don't settle for "the policy", double-triple check in/out network providers and take control of the situation and above all, be polite. Yelling will cause them to shut down, but polite firmness will put you in command. There are often clever ways around seemingly insurmountable obstacles [1]
It's easy to forget that doctors are simply a service provider and provide services you request or consent to. Treat them no different than a waiter, or an engineer, they have no magic, only training. Quality of care can vary wildly across doctors, nurses, and facilities. The system they work within is broken, and its broken what it means to "practice medicine".
The only people who care about your father is your family, and they have to never forget that and tirelessly push that point of view.
1 - An anecdote: I temporarily became an on-call "IT technician" for a day to get around covid restrictions at one facility my father was having a hard time at. The staff couldn't do anything about it and honestly felt bad, then we all realized that employees could go anywhere, while family and guests could not.
All I can really say is that in general, advocate advocate advocate. Don't take no for an answer, don't settle for "the policy", double-triple check in/out network providers and take control of the situation and above all, be polite. Yelling will cause them to shut down, but polite firmness will put you in command. There are often clever ways around seemingly insurmountable obstacles [1]
It's easy to forget that doctors are simply a service provider and provide services you request or consent to. Treat them no different than a waiter, or an engineer, they have no magic, only training. Quality of care can vary wildly across doctors, nurses, and facilities. The system they work within is broken, and its broken what it means to "practice medicine".
The only people who care about your father is your family, and they have to never forget that and tirelessly push that point of view.
1 - An anecdote: I temporarily became an on-call "IT technician" for a day to get around covid restrictions at one facility my father was having a hard time at. The staff couldn't do anything about it and honestly felt bad, then we all realized that employees could go anywhere, while family and guests could not.
edit this response also mirrors my own, https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34044230