"can't bare the devs that go out of their way to work weekends without being asked"
But that is a problem for those devs, not you. As long as you are producing high quality results on time, shame on them. Why "you" can't bare it?
"I can't bare the endless meetings"
The meeting might feels endless because it is not where you want to be. That sounds more like you expected that the life of professional development should be only what you like to do, I assume coding, and it didn't turn out that way. Maybe you should adjust your expectations to reality and get the most out of those meetings?
"constant micromanagement"
I have deal with this in the past:
a) Over report. Micromanaging is consequence (in very general terms) of insecurities in managers. Over report, be constantly in their faces telling every detail of what you are doing, until they are tired of you and they know you can take care of things
b) Find another company... there is a shortage of developers anyway
Bottom line: You cannot change them, but you can change how you approach them.
"bringing the stress home to my family"
Your family is not at fault of what is going on at work. My experience is that there has to be some level of compartmentalization. You need to learn to flush out your frustrations before arriving home.
I understand that you don't like the industry, but the question is what are you going to do about it? How are you going to process your feelings? How can you take advantage of where you are? In other words, can you develop your soft-skills?
But that is a problem for those devs, not you. As long as you are producing high quality results on time, shame on them. Why "you" can't bare it?
"I can't bare the endless meetings"
The meeting might feels endless because it is not where you want to be. That sounds more like you expected that the life of professional development should be only what you like to do, I assume coding, and it didn't turn out that way. Maybe you should adjust your expectations to reality and get the most out of those meetings?
"constant micromanagement"
I have deal with this in the past: a) Over report. Micromanaging is consequence (in very general terms) of insecurities in managers. Over report, be constantly in their faces telling every detail of what you are doing, until they are tired of you and they know you can take care of things b) Find another company... there is a shortage of developers anyway Bottom line: You cannot change them, but you can change how you approach them.
"bringing the stress home to my family"
Your family is not at fault of what is going on at work. My experience is that there has to be some level of compartmentalization. You need to learn to flush out your frustrations before arriving home.
I understand that you don't like the industry, but the question is what are you going to do about it? How are you going to process your feelings? How can you take advantage of where you are? In other words, can you develop your soft-skills?