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People don't like hearing dissent, or people who disagree with them. My tone is a reaction to the hostility I'm experiencing as a result of that friction.

Most forums have some kind of backstop that prevents the vindictive from causing too much harm. This forum has a vindictive moderator. He needs to go.



It must be frustrating to feel like you're being singled out. More so when you feel hostility from individuals who disagree with you. It can feel very personal, when someone is attacking you and your ideas. Especially when you Know you have a point and it feels like you aren't being heard.

I've spent a lot of time trying to deal with this conflict & trying to be heard and understood. Part of the trick is not taking things too personally, not Making things personal or directing them at an Individual, and instead continuously focusing on the topic at hand. If things devolve to personal attacks of Any sort, I disengage or try to re-focus. My goal is to be heard and understood, and that doesn't happen when the argument devolves to a personal level.

It's hard not to react, but sometimes not reacting & taking the high road is the most productive way forward.




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