It's a unbelievable that we take the output of these seminars as gospel. They are just groups of people - with no more authority on what "proper behavior" is than the rest of us.
...and yet the community that supports them vehemently punishes anyone that strays from their constantly changing and often contradictory directives.
It's not gospel, it's a view. It's useful to understand people who have a different perspective. Their view may not be universal, but it's still a valid view.
...and yet the community that supports them vehemently punishes anyone that strays from their constantly changing and often contradictory directives.