I'm fascinated to see if you just work in bizzare confrontational companies or are just paranoid. Pretty much everywhere I've been I've gotten on well with my coworkers, chatted about videogames, beer, gone to various resturants for lunch, and generally enjoyed myself. To do anything else would seem almost unbearable - and this comes from a 100% introvert.
There are subtle signals that people have to both recognise and/or know how to use in order to use smalltalk succesfully - things like never interrupt someone wearing headphones on both ears, or recognising body language of someone absorbed by thought.
Even if you genuinely don't ever like talking to people, they are bound to get the message soon enough and stop trying. And if for some reason they have the spectacularly bad social skills to not pick that up, usually telling them once or twice (kindly!) that you don't like to chat at work should get them to stop.
I may be paranoid, but I can't grok as much social information as my coworkers can. I've had to memorize what different emotional states look like, and I come from a working-class background where emotional dishonesty is not a valued thing, going to an office environment where it is.
Apologies for the Star Trek reference, but it feels like being a particularly dense Betazoid working in an office of Vulcans.
There are subtle signals that people have to both recognise and/or know how to use in order to use smalltalk succesfully - things like never interrupt someone wearing headphones on both ears, or recognising body language of someone absorbed by thought.
Even if you genuinely don't ever like talking to people, they are bound to get the message soon enough and stop trying. And if for some reason they have the spectacularly bad social skills to not pick that up, usually telling them once or twice (kindly!) that you don't like to chat at work should get them to stop.